There are gifts everywhere, if you learn how to see them. Patricia Madson in Improv Wisdom suggests you can choose to look at a person or event from three different viewpoints.
1) To see what’s wrong with it (the critical method–commonly used in higher education). Using this lens the self looms large.
2) To see it objectively (the scientific method). Using this lens both the self as well as others are meant to disappear.
3) To see the gift in it (the improviser’s method). With this lens others loom large.
You are supported by an incredible network of individuals who provide what you need to do your work. This may be hard to accept at times, especially when you are trying to get along with a coworker who seems intent on making your life difficult.
But its true.
Here’s an exercise which may highlight this for you. Look at the top of your desk and count the number of things on it. All the way from a piece of paper, to notebooks, to computer monitors, speakers, and maybe even pictures of your family.
Now, think about the number of people that were involved in creating one of these things. Take a piece of paper, for example. Let’s assume the paper is from partially recycled material. This means that someone had to stop from throwing some paper away, and put it in the recycling. That recycling was picked up by someone else and brought to a processing plant. That plant employs a bunch of people who help separate the recycling and send it on to other plants. Some of that paper will end up at a paper mill and get mixed into some fresh pulp which was harvested from a tree farm or logged somewhere, including a lot more people in the process. From the paper mill, the paper will be transported to a warehouse. It will be sold by someone at Dunder Miflin (just kidding, trying to see if you’re still with me), then shipped out to your office. From there it will be loaded into a printer and then printed by whoever gave you that sheet of paper.
There are probably thousands of people involved in the production of that paper alone, imagine how many people are involved in all of the things on your desk! I get it, all of these people were compensated in some way, but their work is still a blessing to you.
In order to be able to see the gift in a person or event, you need to train your mind to see the good in everything.