Imagine yourself sitting and staring at another group of pictures on your computer screen while you listen to someone drone on and on about how the meeting is going to go.
Bored yet? Checking into something else on your computer?
If you are leading this group, you know it would be amazing if everyone were willing to step right into the meeting and be willing to share immediately. Unfortunately, you also know that will not happen. There are people who are willing to jump right in, but there are also others who are quite willing to let them. This seems to be really noticeable with virtual meetings, because it is very easy to just sit and watch. Some people sit back, and don’t really enter the meeting. Their minds stay at their desks, or at home, as they check their email or social media feeds.
So, how do you get the loud ones to learn how to step back and the quiet ones to step up?
You make them sing. That’s right, sing!
Now that we are all locked down due to COVID, there is even less need to feel embarrassed. No one is going to sound that good anyway!
Okay, here’s how it works. You have one person step up (this would put them in the middle of circle if you were meeting live). This person simply starts singing any song that comes into their head. This could be “Happy Birthday”, or “Auld Lang Syne”, or whatever. After a line or two someone else steps in with a different song. This continues until everyone has had a turn at singing, and no one has sung more than twice.
The goal is not to leave someone hanging in the centre for very long, nor have the same people hogging the limelight. This teaches us to have fun, and to take turns while making room for all voices.
So, the next time you gather for a meeting (be it virtual or in person) take some time to learn how to make room for one another and how to speak up.